Part 3 of Contest Wisdom

As the team reveal for Pitch Madness approaches, I thought I'd post about etiquette and self-care for that part. A lot of this, I didn't know a year ago. I probably would have made some serious missteps if it hadn't been for other competitors and mentors passing along gentle reminders. Don't tell my kids, but I'm not *really* all-knowing. I've just been around the block a little by now.

(I wish I had half of Carla's sass)

THE BIG REVEAL

1. BE CONSIDERATE

I’ve been on both sides of the competition. I’ve been selected, and not. Not getting picked can be devastating. And it’s OKAY to feel that! It’s normal! But…don’t take it out on anyone else. Don’t dump on the mentors and trash them for not picking you. (Word gets around. Anybody else who entered PitchWars 2016 remember the crazy jerky older guy? He's not going to be getting a publishing deal anytime soon after demonstrating that he's unwilling to work with anyone or take advice. Don't be that guy!) Try to keep your disappointment off the hashtag. Vent privately if you need to, offline, to a trusted friend or family member.

More like this:

And less like this:

On the flip side, if you ARE chosen, congrats! But remember that only a tiny percentage of entries are selected. You’re going to feel giddy, exploding with excitement.

Celebrate! But again, save most of it for in private. DM your best CP friend who got in with you. Talk to your spouse, your parents, your BFF, your pet hamster. If you go on and on about yourself online, on the hashtag, think of how hurtful that is to all the people who didn’t make it in. So if you get picked, limit yourself to one or two tweets on the hashtag. We like to see that you know you’ve won, after all. Last year, those of us who were in NoQS created our own separate hashtags, so that we could talk and find our teammates without rubbing everyone else’s noses in it. A little politeness and consideration go a long way.

2. MAKE 2 PLANS BEFOREHAND

Decide what you’re going to do if you win. Pick a way to reward yourself. The road to publishing is filled with tiny victories, and they’re important to celebrate, because the constant stream of rejection will drag you down if you don’t actively take time to notice the positive.

Also decide what you’re going to do if you lose. Set a time limit for how long you are allowed to sulk, if you think that’s something you’re going to need. Step away from your story for a week, if you have to. Don’t obsess over the feed, or why you “lost” and someone else won. Indulge your hurt feelings for that short period of time, then get up and keep on going. Sometimes the mentors will do blog posts or Twitter threads on trends they saw that people need to fix. Read them! Apply their strategies to your novel. You can get out of a contest as much or as little as you want to. I’ll tell you right now that I’m a much better writer now than I was a year ago, and it’s due to the resources I found online through these contests. I started reading everything more critically and writing more consciously, and it shows.

If you win, be gracious. If you lose, be gracious. And either way, you’re in for a lot of hard work and revisions.